Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Work and Life Balance

The presentation from yesterday's Work and Life Balance lunch and learn session is posted at
S: SCRegion/Camden/Melissa/Lunch and Learn Presentations

Recap:

Keeping a healthy balance involves 3 aspects:

Self-care (personal health and wellness)
Others-care (family, friends, relationships)
Meaningful work (contributing to society, challenging, stimulating work)

Most of us don't ignore one of those things, but we try to do too much. This causes us distress, rather than peace.

It's a challenge to find a healthy balance, but we need to see our limits to do this properly. We cannot always think of just ourselves, or always say yes to others.

Circle Balance Activity

Draw a circle and divide into 3 segments, one for each of the healthy balance aspects. Draw each segment based on how much time and energy you put into the following: self-care, others-care, meaningful work. Next, divide the self-care section into how much time and energy you put into physical, mental, relational, and spiritual with a dotted line. Divide the others-care into family, friends, and reaching out. Divide the meaningful work into job and service to other causes.

This will help you see how you are balancing yourself between those 3 things.

Finding a healthy balance is an ongoing process and you must decide on it, no one else can decide for you.

We all have limits and must recognize those limits in order to keep a healthy balance. We should accept our limits, set priorities, make clear commitments to keep ourselves healthy.

Planning Guide - To Keep a Healthy Balance

Step 1: Clarify your values
◦What is your purpose in life, what are your goals?

Step 2: Set healthy balance goals
◦Use the circle exercise again to define ideal balance, your goals

Step 3: Rebalance regularly
◦Keep testing until you find what works well for you, adjust and revise until you find a style for you

Regarding rebalancing:
The goal is balance, every small change you make will help lead to a healthy balance. Perfect adjustment is never possible. Imbalance will not ruin you, as long as it doesn’t remain out of line for too long. Balance is an activity we engage in over and over again, as we make corrections throughout life.


That will be the last lunch and learn presentation for fall 2009. Look for more information coming out for the spring wellness activities!

Monday, November 30, 2009

Week 5 wellness activity

Last week, we talked about our thinking processes being one component of mental health and wellness. This week's activity, our final one for fall 2009, is a thinking assessment.

Week 5 (Monday, Nov 30 to Sunday, Dec 6)
Thinking Assessment
(score yourself for each statement, 1 would indicate very low while 5 would indicate very high)
· How creative are you in seeing new options? 1 2 3 4 5
· How good is your memory? 1 2 3 4 5
· How curious are you? 1 2 3 4 5
· How active is your imagination and fantasy? 1 2 3 4 5
· How well do you concentrate? 1 2 3 4 5
· How humorous or clever are you? 1 2 3 4 5
· How well do you make judgments? 1 2 3 4 5


Learning is a lifelong process, so if you are interested in staying mentally healthy, here are some strategies to consider:
· Keep your thinking cap on. Nourish your mind. Read books. Explore and experiment.
· Accept and meet new challenges willingly. Be curious. Make change an adventure.
· Control your energy output. Say no sometimes. Save some energy for yourself.
· Cultivate creativity. Try something new. Use your imagination.


The Adobe Connect session for this week is on Work and Life Balance. Please join us Tuesday, Dec 1 at noon. You will receive the information via email on Tuesday morning.

Wednesday, November 25, 2009

Week 4 Adobe Connect session

The Healthy Relationships and Mental Health powerpoints are on the share drive at:

S:SCRegion/Camden/Melissa/Lunch and Learn Presentations

The others are on there as well.

Summary from today's session:

Healthy relationships are characterized by:

–Reciprocal responsibilities
–Mutual satisfaction
–Give and take
–Sharing
–Listening

Healthy relationships should include:

–Trust
–Support
–Honesty
–Communication
–Respect
–Shared responsibility
–Equality
–Safety

Communication is key. Friends and caring partners do the following:

–Share likes and dislikes
–Be empathetic, understand other’s point of view
–Actively listen – verbal/non-verbal
–Acknowledge other’s feelings
–Accept conflict may happen

10 Tips for Healthy Relationships:

•Be realistic
•Communicate effectively
•Be flexible
•Take care of yourself
•Be dependable
•Fight fair
•Show your warmth
•Keep your life balance
•It can be a process
•Be yourself


Mental health involves 3 things:

  • Intellectual/thinking processes
  • Emotional patterns/experiencing feelings
  • Self-esteem/self-respect

No one has all the characteristics of mental health all of the time. Mental health does not mean. perfection. Instead, it reflects on the decision to live life openly and fully, acknowledging your limitations, and affirming your strengths.

Personal reflection on mental health:

What are your:

Intellectual patterns
Emotional patterns
Self-esteem patterns

Mental Health Wish List:

What would you like to be able to do?
To know?
To feel?
To learn?
Let your imagination run free, don’t limit yourself
I wish I could…..

Monday, November 23, 2009

Week 4 wellness activity

Week 4 (Monday, Nov 23 to Sunday, Nov 29)
Mental Health Inventory

· Do you feel in control of yourself?
· Can you laugh easily? Do you laugh each day?
· Can you cry easily? When was the last time?
· Give yourself a grade for common sense A B C D F
· Comment on your mental health level today.
· What are some strategies you could do to improve your mental health?


Mental health involves 3 things – our thinking processes, our capacity to experience feelings, and our sense of self-worth.
· The thinking part includes your problem-solving skills, sense of humor, creativity, curiosity, coping with problems, welcoming new experiences, decision-making, and accepting responsibility.
· The feeling part includes sensitivity, intuition, coping with emotions, motivations, and taking disappointments in stride.
· Our self-worth is all about your attitude, feeling comfortable with yourself and others, confidence, and taking life as it comes at you.

Mental health does not mean being perfect. It requires the ability to think clearly, the willingness to experience our feelings fully, and trust in ourselves.


On Wednesday, November 25, the Adobe Connect session will be on Healthy Relationships (from week 3) as well as Mental Health from this week.

Monday, November 16, 2009

Week 3 wellness activity

Week 3 (Monday, Nov 16 to Sunday, Nov 22)

Relationship Inventory

· How many people know you deeply and understand who you really are? Name at least one but five or six would be better.
· Look at your list of supporters and reflect on the different ways you have of letting each of these people know you.

Use this information to review your support network. A supportive network of family and friends enhances your potential for well-being by sharing, listening, understanding, and providing fellowship.

Thursday, November 12, 2009

Self-esteem recap

The powerpoint for today's Adobe Connect session is on the share drive at S: SC Region/Camden/Melissa/Lunch and Learn Presentations

Summary:

Self-esteem is our self-worth or personal value. It's also how we evaluate ourselves. Those with positive self-esteem feel good about themselves and have a positive outlook. Those with negative self-esteem demean and doubt themselves.

Self-esteem results from relationships/events/situations with parents during childhood, friends, peers, significant others in intimate relationships, teachers, co-workers, strangers, and the media.

People with positive self-esteem have positive characteristics associated with them, such as taking responsibility, self-motivated, good relationships, and respect. People with low self-esteem have unhappy relationships, poor judgment, critical view of themselves, and they don't believe in themselves. Low self-esteem can lead to worry, depression, use of substances, angry behavior, or eating concerns. Stress is also related to low self-esteem and the immune system may be compromised in those with low self-esteem.

Three tips for feeling good: think deeply about your feelings, look for the silver linings (positive things), and practice gratitude.

We can always improve our mental health, even if we think it is good. Building our self-esteem can lead to self-fulfillment, which is an essential part of our well-being.

To maintain self-esteem, you can do some of the following: join a support group if necessary, be realistic, make time for yourself, maintain physical health, ask for help when needed, let go of negativity (especially from your childhood), work to change things you don't like, avoid media influences of self-esteem, and surround yourself with those who care.

Monday, November 9, 2009

Week 2 activity - Self-esteem

Week 2 (Monday, Nov 9 to Sunday, Nov 15)

Self-Esteem Assessment
· In what ways does your positive view of yourself enhance your well-being?
· What are some of your favorite personal putdowns/criticisms?
· What qualities of yours do you particularly admire?

Most of us need an occasional boost for our self-confidence. Here are some ways to help improve your self-esteem:
· Talk to yourself gently. Don’t be your worst critic. Change negative thoughts or saying to positive self-talk.
· Be realistic. Avoid comparisons to others and accept your differences.
· Worry wisely. You can’t change everything. Don’t worry about what you can’t control.
· Affirm your resources. Keep your strengths in mind and make them work for you.
· Focus on what deeply satisfies you. Spend time on worthwhile people and things. Participate in things that give you a sense of purpose and worth.
· Hang in there when the going gets tough. Keep up with your meaningful responsibilities when you feel as though you are falling to pieces. You are strong enough.

Tuesday, November 3, 2009

Wellness activity - week 1

Here is the interpersonal needs assessment activity for week 1 (November 2 to November 8).


Week 1 (Monday, Nov 2 to Sunday, Nov 8)
Interpersonal Needs Assessment

How well are your interpersonal needs being met right now?

For each category listed, answer the 3 following questions:

  1. To whom do you look?
  2. How successfully are your needs met?
  3. Who else could possibly fill this need?

Categories:

  1. Listening
  2. Emotional nuture
  3. Feedback
  4. Commendation
  5. Challenge
  6. Play


What do you observe about your responses?

Do you rely on only one person? Are some of your important needs currently not being met?

What might you like to strengthen or change? Note some of your observations.

Keep the following things for getting your needs met as you review your interpersonal needs assessment.

  • Don’t put all your eggs in one basket. Try to depend on more than one person for your support network.
  • Don’t beat your head against a stone wall. Accept that some may not be appropriate for all needs.
  • Accept willing substitutes. You can find people to support you even if one important person is gone or unable.
  • Don’t wait for a mind reader. You have to reveal yourself; don’t make people guess what you need.Speak up. The risk of not speaking up outweighs loneliness and fear.

Stress Management recap

If you would like to see the powerpoint presentation from yesterday's Stress Management lunch and learn, it is available on the share drive at S: SC Region/Camden/Melissa/Lunch and Learn Presentations.

Summary:
There is good and bad stress and there are different causes of stress (psychosocial, environmental, and self-imposed). Stress can be general or cumulative, as well as acute tramatic and post-tramatic. One lately recognized type of stress is related to technology.

Some stress management involves finding balance, assessing stressors, coping effectively, changing your response, managing emotions including anger, and by thinking positive.
Other stress management techniques include taking physical action (exercise, relaxation, rest, etc), seeking control of the present, laughing and enjoying life, organization, social support, spirituality, looking at what triggers negative emotions, and finding an outlet for your frustration. One technique may not work for everything so try different things.

Mindfulness is enjoying the present moment and living life to the fullest. Try to do this more and less on auto pilot.

There are many different ways to relieve stress, some are: journaling, physical activity, reading, talking to someone, crying, deep breathing, and laughter.

Check out the following resource on stress management:
•Healthy Staff for Healthy Schools
http://extension.missouri.edu/hes/healthystaff/stressless.htm

•Mindfulness Practice Center – MU
http://www.umsystem.edu/ums/curators/wellness/mindfulness/index.htm

•“Why Zebras Don’t Get Ulcers” by Robert M. Sapolsky

•“Seeking Your Healthy Balance” by Donald A. and Nancy Loving Tubesing



Please let Melissa know if you have any questions.

Monday, October 19, 2009

Fall 2009 wellness activity

Here is the information for the fall 2009 regional wellness activity. Faculty - I will be talking for a few minutes at the regional meeting and ITV on Oct 20. NPAs and support staff- please look over the information and let me know if you have any questions.

Basically, there are 5 activities focusing in on social/emotional/mental wellness, one activity per week for 5 weeks. These activities are not complicated, nor should they take you very much time. There are reflection questions with each activity for your personal use.

There are also 5 Adobe Connect (similar to Centra) sessions, one per week for 5 weeks. Those sessions are voluntary, but it may be a good chance for you to bring your lunch to work and eat while listening to the session during the 12 to 12:45 time frame (probably more like 12 to 12:30 but I wanted to allow plenty of time). Your office may also choose to do a potluck lunch as a group and listen to the session that day. This is not a competition, like we have done in the past. If you are even remotely interested in any of the sessions, I need to know one week in advance of the session. For the first session on Monday, Nov 2, I need to know by Tuesday, Oct 27 so that I can send the information to ETCS ahead of time.

I encourage everyone to participate in these activities and start your way to better social, emotional, and mental wellness.

The information was emailed out to everyone, but I will also be posting them each week on this blog. I will also post a short summary after each Adobe Connect session.

Monday, September 28, 2009

Where do foods fit on Mypyramid?

Most everyone has seen Mypyramid from the USDA. If you haven't, check out http://mypyramid.gov. Sometimes it can be difficult to figure out which food group a certain food fits. The website Food-a-pedia can help you determine which food group they will fall into and it's very user-friendly, http://www.myfoodapedia.gov/Default.aspx.

Tuesday, September 1, 2009

Laughter

You can get more out of everyday and improve your emotional wellness with laughter. If you can't laugh, fake it!

  • Start with a big smile on your face. Say, "he he he, ho ho ho, ha ha ha" and keep repeating until you start to giggle. Have others join you.
  • Don't be afraid to look or act silly. It will put a smile on your face.
  • When you are in a stressful situation, fake a laugh. This instantly improves your mood. -
  • Make someone else laugh or smile, this act is contagious and will make yourself or others smile.
  • A pretend giggle can usually turn into a laugh.
  • Give it a try, you don't have anything to lose!

Monday, August 10, 2009

Physical Activity

How much and how often should you be physically active? Check out the physical activity pyramid, created by our colleagues on campus at MU Extension, to find out the recommendations.

http://extension.missouri.edu/publications/DisplayPub.aspx?P=N388

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

Intellectual wellness

While working for MU Extension, we are constantly learning new things, sharing information with others, and staying up-to-date in our area of expertise. These are all helping to improve our intellectual wellness. Here is a fun website with quizzes and games that may also help improve your intellectual wellness. Have a look at http://www.sporcle.com/ and try out some of the "mentally stimulating diversions."

Additional winner

Diane Kandel, from Camden County, placed 2nd in the individual point totals in the spring 2009 wellness competition and wins an Eat This, Not That book. She had 311 points in the competition. Great job Diane!

Tuesday, June 23, 2009

Prize winners

Congratulations to the prize winners for the spring 2009 wellness competition!



Top finishing team:

Apple Dumplin' Gang from Oregon County: Nichole Harms (captain), Gary Cross, Becky Bassett, and Kathy Loth. Their total average points were 260. The prizes for this team are an Eat This, Not That book, an Eat This, Not That Supermarket Survival Guide, or 2 CalorieKing Calorie, Fat, and Carbohydrate Counter books.



Top finishing individual:

Cammie Younger, Fab Five from Shannon/Texas County. Her total points were 336 for the 5 weeks with an average of 67.2.She wins a Meals in Minutes cookbook from the American Heart Association.




Great job to the winners!


Results from the 2009 spring wellness competition:


Grape Country Gals from Gasconade County (Donna Clavin-Mistler, Virginia Buschmeyer - captain, and Debbie Raaf) - 221 total average points





Camden Cruisers from Camden County (Diane Kandel - captain, Larry Roberts, Andrea Hawkins, Jackie Rasmussen, and Michele Kroll) - 254 total average points





Fab Five from Shannon/Texas County (Kelly Younger -captain, Cammie Younger, Dana McGuire, Terri Fossett, and Chi Holder) - 202 total average points





Howell County Hoofers from Howell County (Jenny Flatt - captain, Pam Powell, Bill Doig, and Tammy Woodworth) - 218 total average points





Laclede County Fruity Four from Laclede County (Kim Lambeth - captain, Jim Thompson, Doralee Ely, and Becky Morgan) - 163 total average points





Pulaski County (Sarah Traub - captain, Bonnie Drury, Melissa Conrad, Lavina Wilson, and Waita Karcher) - 218 total average points





Christi Crisp from Wright County - 198 total average points





Crawford County (Christa Spindler - captain, Karen Branstetter, Presha Earney, and Susan Smail) - 228 total average points








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Thursday, June 18, 2009

6/18/2009

Welcome to the South Central regional wellness blog. I will be updating this with articles and information about wellness. If you have articles to share, please email them to Melissa at bessmm@missouri.edu. I would also like to highlight any of our SC colleagues who are doing sensational things to improve their wellness. If one of your colleagues is doing something great to improve their wellness, please let me know! Enjoy!